So you didnt get the jobnow what - TheJobNetwork

So you didnt get the jobnow what - TheJobNetworkIn the course of your job search, youve probably come across someone who talks about how they lucked into some great opportunity, clicked with an interviewer right away, and basically walked away with a job offer on the spot. And you probably hate that person a little, especially if youve experienced what just about all of us have at some point a rejection after going through the application process. googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) Lets face it that rejection always stings, even if you know you werent a good fit or you didnt have a good interview. Thinking you may not get a job and the confirmation of that fact feel like two different things. So how do you cope after you get the call, email, or deafening silence that confirms the worst?Mourn it a little, but then move on.This is a disappointment. Its okay to embrace that, but its really not worth wallowing for too long. Whether you were the next choice on the list or dead last in the rankings, the end result is the same, so why dwell? Even if you had your heart set on this new gig and envisioned yourself getting that sweet, sweet offer letter, you cant let the disappointment derail your progress in your job hunt.Dont expect specific intel on why you werent hired.Unless youre told directly that they didnt hire you for X reason, youre probably never going to know for sure exactly why you lost out on this job. Dont look for closure from the company, because you might be disappointed in what you get. If you ask for specific feedback, you may get it, but its just as likely youll get a response like, we decided to go in a different direction.Remember that it doesnt mean youre un-hireable.It can be tempting to personalize the decision. Why didnt they want to hire ME? What did I do to make this happen? Chances are, it wasnt you, personally, who triggered the rejection. Maybe someone else had a few mora experience points or ac ed the interview. Just because this particular company decided not to hire you does not mean youre fundamentally flawed as a candidate or that it will affect your options on your next application.Consider it a chance to regroup.Getting a rejection is a chance to take an honest look at what happened at every step of the process (review your resume, reflect on the interview) and decide what you can improve for next time. It can make you leaner and meaner, and ready for the next job to come along. Were you as prepared as you could have been? Did the interview go well or were there things youd change? Can your resume be more targeted and reflective of your top skills? These are important questions to ask after any job rejection.Not getting the job is also a chance to think about what your job search goals are. Did you really want this job? Do you want to continue looking for this specific kind of job after all? The bottom line is that this is a good chance to re-evaluate yourselfboth as a potential employee and as a job seeker.After any job rejection, its important to remember that its not the end of the world. Its a letdown for sure, but for whatever reason, this job just wasnt right. At some point, the stars will align, and youll find an employer who thinks youre a perfect match for their job opening. Dont lose your motivation or your faith in yourselfsee it as an opportunity to learn from the experience and move on to the next thing.

4 Lessons We Can All Learn From Men in the Workplace

4 Lessons We Can All Learn From Men in the Workplace Last month, I was meeting with a new client. I was especially excited by the prospect of working with this company, as I believe they are entirely disrupting a market, are female founded, female led and predominately female funded. I am a female-first recruiter, and so my business is built around placing the brilliant women I work with in future-forward companies where they can leid only grow, but thrive. Because of this, I am more discerning when it comes to taking on new clients, and when I meet with such a unique client? I am thrilled. Upon arriving, the only freelancer Ive ever had to fire greeted me. Before launching the constellations ( my company), I worked for an advertising agency, and part of my role included staffing various projects with freelance talent. My anfhrer had strong-armed me into hiring this creative who I believed was charging an exorbitant day rate based on his skillset, turned up late, left early and texte d me one morning from his chair in the office (I was in a conference room) to tell me the surf was great and he was leaving to catch some waves. It was the straw that broke this camels back. I smiled sheepishly, wondering if he recalled ur brde conversation er, voicemail. It had been a few years. But to my surprise, I was immediately met with a Do you remember me?I had a few minutes before the start of my meeting, so he and I sat down to chat ( luckily, no hard feelings). As he settled into his seat, he mistakenly put his elbow in a bit of jam. He looked down at his arm, wiped off the jelly and then smeared it back onto the table. I felt the familiar wave of contempt wash over me as I wondered why this adult sharing a communal space with his colleagues would not excuse himself, walk the six or so feet to the sink behind him, bestattungs a paper towel and tidy up the jam.We finished up our chat as my meeting was to start, but his behavior stuck with me. I recalled all of the times w here female employees took notes regardless of title, or set up the conference room for client lunches and then, of course, cleaned up after. I stewed over watching men pour giant bowls of cereal and then leave them wherever they happened to finish, and office bros dipping out for long boozy lunches.How was this cavalier workplace attitude so easily achieved? And while I believe white men are the group in dire need of behavior modification across the spectrum, we as women can take a page or two from their book.First and most importantly we should take their lead on mentorship. I have seen it time and time again. The men in the office naturally established mentor/mentee relationships, and as a result, there was this organic opportunity for growth on both sides of the aisle. The mentor was able to hone leadership skills, and the mentee extended a chance to acquire new (valuable) information.If you are in the position to mentor a female colleague, you must. So many women are hungry for the learnings of someone who has forged a path within a company or built a business on their own. Failing to share ones knowledge does a collective disservice. And if you are in need of a mentor, find a leader whom you believe you could learn something from or even admire and ask them to a coffee. Create and hold space for growth.Next, lets drop the office gossip. Speaking poorly about another woman is something you have been conditioned to do. While you waste time concerned with the behavior of another, somebody else is working towards your raise or your promotion. And if what you are whispering is something that could potentially help her, you have a responsibility to offer feedback. It will not only help the subject of your interest grow, but will help you as you practice having uncomfortable conversations. We also need to better develop camaraderie. I do not mean form a clique, but establish a rapport with the women in your office. If you work in a large office, make an effort to say hello to someone new each morning. One of the things I most looked forward to at my last office job was the afternoon walk around the block I took with my co-workers. We often sat at our desks for lunch, but each afternoon whoever was able would meet downstairs for a walk. It was a great way to connect with coworkers and get some fresh air.Finally, do not immediately accept the responsibility of office chores. I am not advocating you leave coffee cups and half-eaten donuts lying around, but step away from the dirty dishes and dont you dare write that passive aggressive note you were going to tape above the sink. Instead, use this as an opportunity to discuss gender bias. A male employee is just as capable of tidying up as a female. And while on the topic of creating new precedents, if you naturally take notes in a meeting or another female colleague does, try suggesting everyone take notes (or share the task). Say something like, Moving forward, Id love for us to take turns with meeting notes. Sound good?There is an equality learning curve. And while we work towards establishing equilibrium in the workplace, we must remember male entitlement and our collective complacency was not born overnight. Every micro-change we make or behavior modified is a step towards bridging the gap. --Jeni Lambertson is the founder and CEO of the constellations, a female-first procurement service. Shes passionate about bringing diversity to future-thinking companies while simultaneously doing her part to close the wage gap.